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The Curious Dichotomy of Big Families

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We’ve got good news for parents with lots of kids: they’re probably going to behave better than kids from smaller families. We’ve also got bad news: some of your kids are going to struggle cognitively.

As the number of children per family continues to fall – just two per household today versus seven in 1800 – researchers have been studying the implications of this demographic trend. Two results have stood out: kids’ intellectual and emotional intelligence.

Turns out, kids from crowded homes tend to:

  • Fare worse in school
  • Perform poorly on cognitive tests
  • Pursue less education overall

Equally important, the younger children tend to do worse than their older siblings, and the older siblings show cognitive declines with each new addition to the family.

As to why these shortcomings exist, researchers speculate it is tied to parents’ time and resources. Simply put, the more kids in a home, the less time parents have to dedicate to a particular child. As each new child arrives, the older children receive even less time from mom and dad but more responsibility.

Why You Need to Eat Dinner with Your Kids
Something as simple as a regular family meal can ensure all kids receive a consistent dose of parental attention and interest.

Similarly, more kids equate to more drains on a family’s resources. Meaning kids may not enjoy the same level of access to extracurricular activities, tutors, and other opportunities as would kids from smaller families.

“Earlier children experience the greatest reductions, because they lose the most parental attention,” the researchers write. “Because parental resources become increasingly restricted as family size grows, third- and later-born children are likely to receive so little nonessential resources that their share can barely be diluted by a new, younger sibling.”

But those big families do bring good news with them – at least for the youngest of the broods. The same research reveals that kids from larger families tend to be better behaved than kids from smaller clans.

In particular, the last-born children are often seen by their parents as the best behaved of the lot. Researchers speculate this may be in part to parents (and older siblings) focusing more attention on the child. Or, it could be the parents are simply viewing that final, ‘baby’ of the bunch through rose-colored glasses.

The results of the study do demonstrate one truism above all others: that kids who receive a sufficient amount of attention from parents tend to do better in life than those who are left to their own devices. Meaning that something as simple as consistent, dependable family dinners can go a long way in helping all kids – regardless of family size – to enjoy the benefits of parental attention and interest.

Gaming Can Lead to Hearing Loss in Young People

Let’s be honest, kids are going to game. Even if you prohibit it at your home, your child quite likely will engage in gaming at a friend’s house. It’s one of those laws of childhood.

But you can and should remind your child that gaming with headphones or earbuds set at high volume levels can lead to hearing loss and / or tinnitus. In fact, researchers suggest as many as 10 million people in the U.S. alone are likely listening to game volumes beyond safe levels.

A big part of the reason: gamers often will play for hours at a time and, during that stretch, gradually increase volumes to keep the serotonin and other juices flowing. The result is a constant audio bombardment on young ears that are still maturing.

In a scientific review of gaming literature, researchers found that gaming volumes – especially so-called ‘impulse bursts’ that last as little as one second – can easily reach 119db, enough volume to damage ears.

Note that permissible exposure limits are roughly 100 dB for children and 130–140 dB for adults.

The researchers concluded: “Although the data provided in this review are limited, they suggest that some gamers, particularly those who play frequently, and at or above the average sound levels described by papers included in this review, probably exceed permissible sound exposure limits, and are thus engaging in unsafe listening practices, which could put them at risk for developing permanent hearing loss and/or tinnitus.”

So mom and dad, be sure to remind your child, again and again, to “keep the noise down” if they want to be able to hear well in the future.

Energy Drinks Tied to Kids' Mental Health Issues

If your child is chugging energy drinks during breaks in the action, the habit could be contributing to a variety of mental health issues including ADHD, anxiety, suicidal thoughts and depression.

Or so says an analysis of 57 different studies looking at more than 1.2 million kids and young people who regularly drank energy drinks.

The latest review is actually a follow-up to a previous meta-analysis, and researchers behind the new research said it not only confirms the previous results (from 2016), it reveals even bigger problems.

Their research revealed “an even greater list of mental and physical health outcomes associated with children and young people consuming energy drinks,” said lead author Amelia Lake, professor of public health nutrition at Teesside University in the UK.

Caffeine levels are especially high in energy drinks, which is of course a principle reason for the ‘energy’ jolt that people receive when drinking them. While some countries have already banned energy drink sales to kids, Lake and her fellow researchers have called for a global ban on sales to anyone under 16.

Compared to caffeine levels of 90mg in a cup of coffee or 50mg in a cup of tea, caffeine levels in energy drinks can run from 50mg to a stunning 505mg per serving. Yet even small amounts of caffeine can impact a child’s sleep, leading to all manner of cognitive issues.

Empathetic Moms Create Empathetic Kids

Mothers who are empathetic are likely to pass that trait down to their kids. Which is important, since research shows that empathetic kids are generally happier, build stronger relationships, and are more successful.

Researchers at the University of Virginia followed 200 people from the time they were teens until they had kids of their own. By filming moms, their teens, and later those same teens as adults counseling their own kids, the researchers were able to observe three generations.

What they discovered: “I think one of the things that was most interesting is that the social skills that teens were practicing with their close friends during those adolescent years, ended up being really important for the way they parented,” said psychologist Jessie Stern, a research scientist at the school. “So the amount of empathy that teens were showing with their close friends, and just the amount of practice that they were getting in those close friendships, seemed to predict their own kids’ later empathy.”

The results of their work convinced the researchers that empathetic behavior – i.e., the ability to see things from the perspective of another – must be modeled by parents.

If a parent is patient and validates a child’s thoughts and feelings – particularly when they are facing inevitable coming of age challenges – that child is far more likely to follow suit in their own lives and later when raising their own children.

“When teens were bringing a problem to their mom, the mom was doing more validation, showing understanding of the teens problems. The teen had firsthand experience of feeling understood, of receiving empathy. And then they were able to pay that forward in their friendships,” noted Stern.

The study is the latest in a series of longitudinal studies being conducted into the lives of teens.

What's Wrong with the Mental Health of American Kids?

By most measures American kids are struggling. Epidemic levels of anxiety, depression, self-harm, suicide. Most experts point the finger at the explosive growth of smartphone and social media use, which happens to coincide with these increases in mental health disorders.

Seems reasonable.

Except that a global survey on happiness says kids in other countries are actually doing better than their American counterparts – that their mental health is trending up. Yet these kids have access to the same technology. So what’s going on?

Turns out a pretty big clue can be found in the ‘bible’ of the American psychological profession, meaning the DSM or Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. But not for the reasons you might think.

Turning Normal Challenges Into Disorders

The DSM is considered the authoritative guide for diagnosing mental disorders in the U.S. The first volume (DSM-I) published in 1952 was roundly criticized for leaning heavily on Freudian ideas and for defining homosexuality as a mental illness).

The newest version (DSM-V published in 2013), has similarly drawn fire, first for pathologizing the kinds of struggles that virtually every human faces at one point or another, and for inflating the number of such maladies. The grief of losing a loved one, for example, or binge-eating, are now considered bona fide mental disorders.

Speaking on the release of the DSM-V, Roger McIntyre, a professor of psychiatry and pharmacology at the University of Toronto, said: “I’m cringing at this new DSM. How can someone trust a manual that is pathologizing bereavement?”

And to give you an idea of just how much ‘diagnostic inflation’ we’re talking about, the DSM-I weighed in at 32 pages with 102 cited disorders. The DSM-V, on the other hand, is a staggering 947 pages with nearly 300 mental health diseases.

It’s All In Our Heads

In his book, Saving Normal, psychiatrist Allen Frances warned that this huge spike in the classification of mental illnesses risked convincing otherwise perfectly normal people into believing they were mentally ill. Equally important, these diagnoses, and the psychiatrists who made them, would justify the use of pharmaceuticals in their treatment – pharmaceuticals that often do not work, backfire, and include serious side effects.

“[Frances] might have been right,” writes Derek Thompson, a staff writer for The Atlantic. “By 2016, the share of people in the U.S. using antidepressants was more than twice as high as in Spain, France, or Germany, and nine times higher than in South Korea.”

Thompson believes that while smartphones and social media do in fact play a role in explaining the disparities between mental health disorders in American kids vs their global counterparts, he thinks it has far more to do with culture. In a nutshell, he argues:

“In the past generation, the English-speaking world, led by the U.S., has experimented with a novel approach to mental health that has expanded the ranks of the ‘worried well,’ while social media has surrounded young people with reminders to obsess over their anxieties and traumas, just as U.S. news media have inundated audiences with negativity to capture their fleeting attention.”

To borrow from Thompson’s own words, he may be right.

No, Your Kid Probably Isn’t Sick

As we noted in a previous post on how ‘trigger warnings’ can, ironically enough, trigger the very anxiety they’re warning against, so too is it likely that the recent explosion in mental health diagnoses may be leading to American kids (and their parents) mistakenly believing they’re mentally ill when they’re not.

In his immensely popular Ted Talk, Do Schools Kill Creativity, Sir Ken Robinson describes a child – Gillian Lynne – who school administrators assumed had a learning disorder. “She couldn’t concentrate; she was fidgeting. I think now they’d say she had ADHD. Wouldn’t you? But this was the 1930s and ADHD hadn’t been invented yet. It wasn’t an available condition. People weren’t aware they could have that.”

Fortunately, a forward-looking specialist recognized the culprit: Lynne needed to move. She thought and performed best when she was able to move more. It should be noted Lynne went on to a stellar career with the Royal Ballet and became a multimillionaire. “Somebody else,” noted Robinson, “might have put her on medication and told her to calm down.”

In his book, Crazy Like Us: The Globalization of the American Psyche, author Ethan Watters explains how America’s preoccupation with mental health disorders – encapsulated not just in the DSM-V but in our widespread embrace of pharmaceutical interventions for those disoders – has created a cultural mindset that leads countless millions to unnecessarily believe they are mentally ill.

Watters offers many examples, but one that stands out is a period of time in Victorian England when there was widespread concern over female hysteria. Suddenly and quite mysteriously women began to suffer from a variety of unknown mental health maladies, including leg paralysis, hysterical blindness, and convulsions to name a few.

Nothing was actually wrong with these women. But, to borrow from Robinson, as hysterical illness became available, numerous women succumbed to it.

The bottom line: an awful lot of the American kids being diagnosed with mental illnesses of one kind or another may be perfectly fine. They may simply be going through the very same trials and tribulations faced by previous generations, when the DSM-V and its nearly 300 designated mental health disorders weren’t available.